Don’t you just love the feeling when you remove toxic people and situations from your life and relationships? It’s like a big boulder has been lifted off of a stack of smiles you’ve been saving up. Your chest feels lighters. You don’t care that you have a stack of dishes to do after cooking a big meal. You’re just so happy you’ve reclaimed the mental space you wasted on dealing with toxic situations.
You know it’s important to try and maintain your self care. You’re the captain of your life. You can try and accommodate everyone else, but at the end of the day you’re the one in control. There comes a time when you need to put on the seatbelt sign and tell some people to sit down and take a backseat because you are approaching your destination. If they choose to stand up and endure some turbulence that is their decision. You’re still the one that has the controls at hand. You can’t make a detour for every passenger in your life. Passengers will come and go, you have your tight knit crew and trusted co-pilot. Get to your destination in one piece. Don’t lose fuel stopping at everyone elses destination and be left too empty to make it to your own. Now, there isn’t anything at all wrong with helping out others, just remember to be wise about it.
Try to put on your own life jacket before diving in to pull out everyone else. Don’t spread yourself so thin that it’s difficult to recover. You can only pour so much until your glass is empty. Remember to love yourself in your pursuit of loving others.